Further response to “All Black is Beautiful, But All Black Isn’t the Same” by Marley K.
You make a number of excellent points there, Marley. I have always had discussions with my daughter about race, even before she really took it seriously as a thing.
Growing up in the Caribbean delayed the impact a little, though once she got into her teens and was tall, I started telling her more about how the world would view her.
It has been my daughter's decision to adopt Black identity while she's at college in the US, because she knows that's the reality. And therefore she is mindful of how she will experience different treatment from her white peers.
In some ways, she feels like she's denying part of her identity (she has inherited a lot of anglicisms and a British sense of humor from her dad), but she also knows that no matter how she feels inside the world will judge her by her skin color.